The Paradox of Generous Exclusion: Why It's Essential for True Inclusion
The pressure to be “open to everyone” in public engagement
Last year, I was deeply inspired by a thought-provoking article by Priya Parker titled "Why the more is not always the merrier" where she names the concept of generous exclusion. She offers this definition “ an intentional drawing of a temporary line for the good of the guests and to help activate and fulfill a gathering’s purpose”.
WHAT?! But really??!! How would that work?
I read this definition over and over to wrestle with the tension in the concept as well as to get my head and my heart wrapped around it.
Now, it’s important to also share that Priya goes on to say that “Far too often, in the name of inclusion and generosity – two values I care about deeply – we fail to draw boundaries around who belongs at a gathering and why.”
It got me thinking about the incredibly complex space and place we are engaging in today. We know that are an infinite number of perspectives, needs and values – sometimes there is alignment and often values are in conflict. While I believe deeply in the power of conversation and the incredible opportunity when people of different experiences and perspectives come together… maybe there is a need to practice generous exclusion and that this could be deeply beneficial in supporting equity-centred engagement.
Where you might use generous exclusion approach…
When psychological safety is of the utmost importance
Amy Edmondson suggests "a psychologically safe space" is one where all participants believe that no one will be punished or humiliated for speaking up with ideas, questions, concerns for mistakes and that the group is safe for inter-personal risk taking. Generous exclusion may be right choice when mixing of people and experiences will negatively impact your ability to keep this safety.
When our focus is to amplify equity-deserving voices
By intentionally excluding people who hold power and privilege and may dominate the conversation or reduce the opportunity for something new and different, generous exclusion can also help to address power imbalances within our processes.
A great place to start when trust is low
Groups need time to build trust, between one another and with organization (and us engagement practitioners). Generous exclusion may be just what’s needed to build skills, use time, and get comfortable with being uncomfortable – so that participants and community members are ready to lean into the tough stuff.
I love this concept – I think it has great value to our practice when applied with care and attention. I’d love to hear what you think and if/where and when you might apply it!
Until next time!
Kim